Five Minute Relationship Repair - Susan Campbell and John Grey
Falling in love is the easy part. Staying in love is another matter. Some couples seem blessed with everlasting love. Then there’s the rest of us — who start running into trouble once the honeymoon is over. We encounter differences, disagreements, disappointments. Buttons get pushed. We watch helplessly as loving feelings start to fade in the face of misunderstandings, blowups, shutdowns, or vicious communication cycles.
What do couples blessed with ongoing happiness know that we don’t know? In a word, they know how to repair. They are good at quickly attending to the little glitches that every relationship encounters. Those of us who do not naturally know how to do this suffer a buildup over time of unrepaired ruptures. Eventually this buildup leads to feeling unsafe or guarded with each other. And we find ourselves feeling less intimate, less relaxed, and often more alone.
This gradual erosion of loving feelings is extremely common — so common that it could be considered normal. But what if there were another path you could take with your partner? What if you knew how to ...
http://kajama.com/five-minute-relationship-repair/
What do couples blessed with ongoing happiness know that we don’t know? In a word, they know how to repair. They are good at quickly attending to the little glitches that every relationship encounters. Those of us who do not naturally know how to do this suffer a buildup over time of unrepaired ruptures. Eventually this buildup leads to feeling unsafe or guarded with each other. And we find ourselves feeling less intimate, less relaxed, and often more alone.
This gradual erosion of loving feelings is extremely common — so common that it could be considered normal. But what if there were another path you could take with your partner? What if you knew how to ...
http://kajama.com/five-minute-relationship-repair/