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How to Help Kids Consider Forgiveness

Parents can help kids learn to choose forgiveness rather than revenge.BY MARYAM ABDULLAH
Like adults, kids sometimes feel wronged by others—when they aren’t invited to a classmate’s birthday party or a friend divulges their secret, for example. But in the midst of their anger or hurt feelings, they may not realize that forgiveness is an option.

When I asked my three-year-old what it means to forgive, he replied by blowing me a kiss. But the way researchers define forgiveness is different from pardoning, condoning, excusing, or reconciling. Forgiveness has to do with making a decision to free yourself from holding on to resentment and feelings of revenge toward someone who hurt you.

In a 2017 research review, Reine van der Wal and her colleagues explained that retaliation may be children’s first response to others who have offended and hurt them. Even though retaliation is risky, kids may feel like they are merely responding in kind and offering a warning to those who might provoke them i…

The Man Who Transformed Trash Into A Free Library

A garbage man is making a difference in the lives of the children in his community in Columbia, and it all began when he spotted Leo Tolstoy's Anna Karenina in with the rubbish. Rather than see the book discarded, he saw an opportunity to give back, and began collecting neglected books and storing them in his home. Alberto Gutierrez has rescued over 20,000 books in the last 20 years, that take up residence in his free in-home library, aptly named, "The Strength of Words". Gutierrez has even begun shipping books to other regions in Columbia that experience a shortage of literature. Local children who have limited access to books explore the library each weekend, and rarely leave empty-handed. "I think we are simply a bridge between people who have books and those who don't have anything," Gutierrez says.

Can Your Personality Change Over Your Lifetime?

A new study finds that some personality traits are fairly stable and others tend to change, helping us to mature over time.BY JILL SUTTIE
When I was 16 years old, I was a pretty outgoing teen with lots of friends and a busy social calendar. I took my academics seriously and was diligent about doing homework. But I also tended to worry a lot and could cry at the drop of a hat.
Now here I am more than 50 years later, and, in many ways, I seem much the same: extraverted and conscientious, but a bit neurotic. Does that mean that my personality hasn’t changed over the last half-century? Not necessarily. Many of us tend to think of personality as being fixed and unchangeable—the part of you that is inherently who you are. But according to a recent study, while our early personalities may provide a baseline, they are surprisingly malleable as we age. In this study, researchers had access to unusual survey data. American adolescents had filled out questionnaires about their personalities in the 1…

Raise Your Children to Be Happy, Healthy, Complete

Parents today want the very best for our kids. We want them to be smart, athletic, healthy, kind, happy, polite, disciplined, creative and more. We want to give them everything!

Kids on the other hand, are growing up bombarded by technology, needing to compete in every way, comparing themselves with others, trying to be perfect and please their parents, wanting to fit in. As a result, they are often anxious, stressed at a very young age, display behavioral issues, have little self esteem and are simply not happy.

So, from the parents whose intention is so sincere, to the kids who are trying to keep up on all fronts, what needs to change? What is missing?

Read on to discover why raising our children as conscious individuals is the best gift you can give to them.

Half of Antibiotics Given With No Infection Noted

By Amy Norton
HealthDay Reporter

After years of public health warnings about antibiotic misuse, a new study suggests the problem is far from being solved.

Researchers found that of more than 500,000 antibiotic prescriptions they analyzed, nearly half were written without an infection-related diagnosis. And about 20 percent were given without an office visit -- usually over the phone.

It's not clear how many of those prescriptions were actually inappropriate, said lead researcher Dr. Jeffrey Linder, of Northwestern University's Feinberg School of Medicine in Chicago.

His team looked at patient records, and "bad coding" could be part of the problem, Linder explained. He was referring to the system doctors use for recording diagnoses.

Still, the findings are concerning, Linder said.

They suggest that some doctors are still doling out antibiotics too readily -- probably, in part, because they assume patients want them, according to Linder.

But such indiscriminate antibiotic use …

Meet the Creatures Living on Your Body

Head LiceThese tiny insects can live in your hair and drink blood from your scalp. They’re generally not dangerous, just itchy and contagious. They’re common in elementary school kids. You can buy shampoos over the counter that kill them, and your doctor can tell you about prescription ones. You’ll need to use a wet fine-tooth comb on your hair to get rid of them. Even if you do, they can lay eggs, too. If they hatch, you’ll itch all over again. Swipe to advance 2/13 RingwormDon’t worry. It’s not really a worm at all. It’s a fungus that can infect just about any part of your body. On your head, it could cause hair to fall out in the distinct ring pattern that gives it its name. On your feet, it’s called athlete’s foot, and in your crotch area, it’s jock itch. Your doctor or pharmacist can help you get rid of it with antifungal creams, sprays, powders, or pills. Swipe to advance 3/13 HookwormThis is rare in the U.S., but hookworm larvae -- usually found in Asia, Africa, and the Middle East …

How Green Is My Forest

"We are the people of this land. We are nature, human and non-human. These are our bodies. Together we are one body, we are creation, and always will be. We matter. Humus, seed, fruit, tooth, organ, blood and bone. We are root, water, mud, alga and stone. We are the snap of bladderwort. We are buttress-rooted trees. Orchid, fern, dragonfly, elephant, monkey; we are larva, worm, cocoon; creeper, liana and honeybee. We are this forest. Trogon, drongo and hornbill; cobra-lily, ginger and cinnamon; mushroom and pill millipede. We appear from the cloud, we are mist, we are monsoon rain. We are strikes of lightning charging the soil. We are moonshine through the canopy. We are women. Men. Hermaphrodite. Other. Children." In this lyrical piece, Suprabha Seshan, a conservationist who lives and works in a forest-garden in the Western ghats in India, muses about the forest and the many sensory gifts she has to offer. Read on for a richly-meditative account of life in one of the most b…

Another Climate Change Hazard

Global Warming Will Hike Mental Health Woes: Study

A new study warns that mental health problems will increase as global temperatures rise.

Mental health problems will increase as temperatures rise due to climate change, a new study warns.

The researchers said that over five years, a 1 degree Celsius (1.8 degree Fahrenheit) increase in average temperature is associated with higher rates of mental health issues, CNN reported.

The study was published in the journal Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences.

"We don't exactly know why we see high temperatures or increasing temperatures produce mental health problems," lead author Nick Obradovich, a research scientist at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology's Media Lab, told CNN.

"For example, is poor sleep due to hot temperatures the thing that produces mental health problems? We have a lot of work to do to figure out precisely what is causing what," Obradovich said.

For the study, the researchers compared…

Get Out of the Comparison Trap

How to Get Out of the Comparison Trap

By Seth J. Gillihan, PhD

We all let comparison get the best of us sometimes—I’d bet that even people you most admire wish they were as smart, rich, beautiful, or funny as someone else. And I’ll admit I’m prone to my comparisons, too; what starts as admiration of a colleague can easily morph into wishing I could write as well as they do, or that I had an Instagram feed like theirs.
Psychologists call this tendency “upward comparison,” and it has many downsides. Not only does it make us feel bad about ourselves, it rarely motivates us to do any better. Probably the most obvious solution to comparison would be to focus on yourself instead. After all, you are the only valid control condition for yourself because no one else has had exactly the same advantages, challenges, or experiences as you. This is great advice, but it’s easier said than done. Even if we want to focus on ourselves, our brains seem to be wired to make these upward comparisons. What’s mo…

Belly Fat ... or 77 Pound Tumor?

Big, Fat Tumors: Liposarcomas Can Top 70 PoundsBy  Two years ago, Hector Hernandez noticed his weight creeping up and his stomach popping out, but he chalked it up to middle age. His stomach had never really behaved, he admits.
But as it grew, people noticed. “I would get from people, 'You should stop drinking beer,' ” says Hernandez, 47, a billing administrator for an IT company in the Los Angeles area. He'd laugh it off and tell them he didn't even drink beer.
Yet he was becoming concerned. His weight had reached 298 pounds on his 5' 10" frame. "I would exercise and my stomach would never come down," he says. It felt hard, too, although that was nothing new either. When he noticed his arms getting thinner, and his family nudged him, he saw a doctor.
“The doctor touched my stomach and asked, ‘How long have you been like this?’ ” Then he sent Hernandez off for a round of tests, including images of his abdomen.
Soon came the shocking diagnos…