Showing posts from October 21, 2018

Failure Is Afraid of You

When confronted with the possibility of failure, we become afraid. We are so afraid of failure that we combat it by metaphorically beating it, sweeping it away, or hiding it in a deep hole. What might happen if we lit a candle and looked at our fear in the light of wisdom, compassion and even joy? Discover how fear of failure can be transformed in this short essay from the blog DailyBeloved.

How to Be Fairer to Women in Workplace Leadership

Research suggests that performance evaluations are biased against women leaders.BY DAVID G. SMITHJUDITH E. ROSENSTEINMARGARET C. NIKOLOV
“I was told I was too aggressive, I was too blunt, I was too direct, and that I sounded pompous when I offered advice on recruiting, despite the fact that I had been there twice and was very successful,” Lt. Col. Kate Germano told Public Radio International in 2015, shortly after she was removed from command. “In my career of 19 years, what I found was that my counterparts would not be told those things.”

Her male counterparts.

Germano isn’t the first to point to a double standard in how we judge the behavior of leaders. When men take charge, we say that they’re strong and assertive. Women, on the other hand, are all too often labeled bossy or aggressive.

This type of bias appears in performance evaluations. These evaluations are part of the process to identify, develop, and promote talented individuals and are designed to be meritocratic. Ironically…

The Bee Guardian

Honey bees have been around for millions of years, and contribute to about one third of the food we eat worldwide. But they are facing enormous challenges, just like the rest of us on the rapidly changing planet we call home. In 2017, bee keepers in the United States lost 40% of their colonies. However, backyard beekeeping is something simple anyone can do. Watch this uplifting video and learn about "Bee Guardians;" backyard beekeepers whose main vision is providing safe habitats for bees to thrive and maintain their genetic diversity.

A Better Way to Say Sorry

"I'm sorry you feel that way."

Some apologies can actually make things worse. Our Happiness Guinea Pigs, Jolenta Greenburg and Kristin Meinzer of the By the Book podcast, try a more effective way of saying sorry.

Have You Broken Your Four-Minute Mile?

Robert Bengston wants to know: "Have you broken your four minute mile?" We each have our own race that we are in--something we dream of, yet often doubt we can achieve. Still, in our own way we hope and work for making a meaningful difference. Robert believes we can do it. We can break our own four minute mile. We can be that seemingly impossible something that will carry the world over into the unimaginable wholeness we all need. Read more about how we can all plant seeds that will create the life that Bengston believes is possible if we each give our race the best that we have.

Five Ways Mindfulness Meditation Is Good for Your Health

Research suggests that mindfulness benefits our bodies, not just our minds.


In recent decades, researchers have been gaining insight into the benefits of practicing mindfulness meditation. By studying more secular versions of this ancient tradition, they’ve found that learning to pay attention to our current experiences and accept them without judgment might indeed help us to be happier. Studies to date suggest that mindfulness affects many aspects of our psychological well-being—improving our mood, increasing positive emotions, and decreasing our anxiety, emotional reactivity, and job burnout.

But does mindfulness affect our bodies as well as our minds?

Recently, researchers have been exploring this question—with some surprising results. While much of the early research on mindfulness relied on pilot studies with biased measures or limited groups of participants, more recent studies have been using less-biased physiological markers and randomly controlled experiments to ge…

Why Activism Must Be More Generous

Frances Lee, activist, writer, designer and public scholar in Seattle, Washington, believes that social justice movements have a narrow framework of morality, which is counterproductive. Movements need a critical mass of people, but now activists are expected to follow specific standards to be trusted and heard by the larger group. She argues that social justice activists must be as committed to rooting out unhealthy behaviors inside themselves as they are in society. She advises prioritizing building healthy relationships within and with others and accepting people wherever they are on the journey of activism. One internal quality to cultivate is compassion. In addition to rage and critique, nurture humility and gentleness. In this way, we honor our full humanity and that of others, including our enemies and oppressors.

How to Spot the Early Warning Signs of Cancer

How can you tell something's not quite right?

Pay attention to the clues from your body.

Play it smart when you notice anything that could be a serious health problem, like cancer. Talk to your doctor and get it checked out. In general, disease is easier to treat when you spot it early.
Cancer Signals in Both Men and Women Appetite loss. Many conditions, from depression to the flu, can make you feel less hungry. Cancer can have this effect by changing your metabolism, the way your body turns food into energy.

Stomach, pancreatic, colon, and ovarian cancers also can put pressure on your stomach and make you feel too full to eat.
Blood in the stool. Cancers can bleed, but so can a bunch of other things, like ulcers, hemorrhoids, infections, or a sore. When you see red in your poop, the blood is often from somewhere in your GI tract, meaning your esophagus, stomach, or intestines.
One way to tell where the blood is coming from is by how light or dark it looks. Bright red could mean the ble…

How Independent Should Your Teenager Be?

Letting teens make their own decisions (within certain limits) will serve them best in the long run.


When one of our teens, who shall remain nameless, was 15, my husband Mark and I got a surprising email from another parent we’ll call Maureen. Our teen had decided to go to a concert with Maureen’s daughter, Maddie, and she was writing to let us know that she would be driving.
The problem was that our daughter hadn’t bothered to tell us about her plans with Maddie—because the concert conflicted with an important dinner with our huge extended family. It wasn’t that our daughter didn’t want to go to the family dinner. She did. She loves her cousins and genuinely looks forward to seeing them. It was that she desperately wanted to go to the concert, too. How could she choose? “You don’t GET to choose!” was my knee-jerk reaction. Still, she pushed it. “Absolutely not!” I cried. “Family comes before friends! Family is the most important thing!” Our teenager dug in. The conversa…

The Monk, the Butcher & the Origins of Deep Counting

Our lives are based on what we count and how we count it. Somik Raha asks what would be different in our lives if we changed how we engage with counting. Raha takes us through stories of what is meritorious, which leads us into deep counting-- counting which facilitates meaningful experiences. He then brings us into the understanding of how making distinctions is an act of creation and is juxtaposed against perceiving ourselves as nothing. This is the transcendent loop of infinity and seen in the scientific dance of making finer distinctions within a community, which has revealed a picture of larger, more meaningful truth. This truth is shared through stories that lead us to reflect on what counts and helps us transcend division and touch the reality of integration.

Where Music and Empathy Converge in the Brain

A new study suggests that people who are highly empathic process music differently in their brains.BY JILL SUTTIE
Music seems to be a social glue. Think of how love songs enhance our romantic feelings, how marching bands intensity our affinity for the home team, or how huge rock concerts make us feel one with a crowd of thousands. Music has some special power to increase our sense of connection and help us affiliate with others.

But why? What’s happening in our brains that makes an isolated set of sounds resonate in these ways? A new neuroscience study aimed to find out.

In the study, researchers scanned twenty college students’ brains using fMRI technology while they listened to very short clips of music—some familiar and some unfamiliar to them, and some they might like or dislike, according to what the researchers could gather about their musical tastes. The idea was to see how people’s brains responded to these different kinds of music and then to compare those neural patterns.


The Nun Who Has Saved Thousands of Lives From Violence

The very same night that Sister Lucy Kurien turned away a pregnant and frightened woman from an overnight visit to her convent in India, the woman was immolated by her husband. Sister Lucy held her in her arms as she died. That night she vowed to do something for the women of her country. So she founded Maher, "a refuge for women whose poverty prevents them from being able to leave abusive homes on their own. In the short-term, Maher provides immediate shelter, interventions, and even reconciliation. But in the long-term, the community focuses on the slow, meticulous work of transformation: upending India's systemic violence, exploitation, and segregationof men and women, but also of rich and poor." Sr. Lucy tells her story in this interview with YES!