Showing posts from August 12, 2018

Are Conflicted Feelings Normal?

What to Do When You Have Conflicting Feelings By  Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD You’re not sure whether you really feel sad about your friend moving, or excited by the prospect of visiting her at her new home in Hawaii. You know your sister is critical of you, but you believe she’s a kind person. Or maybe you can’t decide what you want romantically — as someone on the WebMD Relationships Message Board recently shared, some moments she feels totally in love with a new guy, but other times she feels drawn to reconnect with her previous partner. Though it can feel maddening, people often have thoughts and emotions that are a conflicted jumble. When you believe that you need to pick which of your thoughts or emotions is your true experience, you have set yourself up for an exercise in frustration. It’s a lot like looking at a picture of a tree and having to pick what  one  color you are seeing. You might pick one color – say, green – when looking at the leaves, and then change your

What Your Body Shape Says About Your Health

One Piece of the Puzzle Your body shape can say quite a bit about your health. But it’s important to remember that it’s just one factor. People of all shapes and sizes can be healthy -- or at risk for problems like heart disease or diabetes. You should see your doctor for regular checkups to test your blood pressure, cholesterol, and other measures of your health. Swipe to advance 2 / 13 Ectomorph One system separates body shapes into “somatotypes.” The ectomorph type has a narrower frame, thinner bones, and smaller joints, and may be flatter in the chest and butt. Think of the typical build of a distance runner, fashion model, or ballerina. Though you may look skinny and find it hard to put on weight, you can have more body fat than you think, especially as you age. That’s because your body often processes food quickly, which makes it harder to build muscle. Swipe to advance

Don't Let Summer Depression Get You Down

School’s out. It’s hot. And you’re not having any fun. By  R. Morgan Griffin     Ah, the joys of summer: The withering heat and school vacations, when your kids give you minute-to-minute updates on their boredom levels. Isn’t summer supposed to be fun and relaxing? If you’ve got summer  depression , it isn’t. For some people, summer  depression  has a biological cause, says Ian A. Cook, MD, the director of the  Depression  Research Program at UCLA. For others, the particular stresses of summer can pile up and make them feel miserable. Especially hard is that you feel like you’re  supposed  to be having a great time. Everyone else seems so happy splashing in the water and  sweating  in their lawn chairs. So why can’t you? And more importantly, what can you do to make this summer easier? Here’s what you need to know about summer  depression . Understanding Summer Depression Why do some people feel more depressed in summer? Here’s a rundown of reasons. Summertime S

15 Ways to Feel Happier and More Positive

Put Some Pep in Your Step Scientists say walking tall with swinging arms helps you feel more positive. Even if you're not feeling happy, a spirited stroll can help you fake it till you make it. Swipe to advance 2 / 15 Slap on a Smile Want to lift your spirits? Lift the corners of your mouth. When you smile like you mean it, you can change your brain’s chemistry and feel happier. Swipe to advance 3 / 15 Volunteer Find ways to get involved in your community or help out a friend in need. You’ll help yourself, too. It can improve your mental health and well-being. Win-win. Swipe to advance 4 / 15 Make New Friends It makes you feel good to spend time with people who care about you. So be open to new relationships, whether it’s someone you meet at the office, gym, church,

The Great Mystery: An Interview with Kent Nerburn

Kent Nerbern is a writer and editor of over a dozen books, and is currently working on the third in a series about the Lakota Indians. With a double PhD He has a long history of interest in Native American tribes and culture, having previously worked with the Ojibwe and written a book on the Nez Perce. In particular, Kent appreciates Native American spirituality, which tends to focus more on the divine in everyday life and nature, rather than devoting a specific day of the week to observe. In this interview Kent discusses his views on spirituality, Native American traditions, and his work.

Five Lessons for Adults from the Movie “Eighth Grade”

A mother and daughter reflect on a young teen’s trials and triumphs at the end of middle school. BY  AMY L. EVA ,  MEGAN WOOD     Have you seen  Eighth Grade ? It’s a new film about Kayla, an awkward, isolated, and endearing teen girl who courageously makes her way through the last week of middle school. My daughter Megan just finished middle school herself—and with great relief. It was a time defined by academic pressure, social challenges, and an overarching sense of anxiety. During her eighth-grade year, however, I watched her grow in confidence, “putting herself out there”—just like Kayla did. This fall, Megan ventures into high school with her shoulders back and her head held just a little higher. In light of this big transition in her life, we planned a mother-daughter movie date to celebrate and reflect on  Eighth Grade . Here are our five key insights for adults based on the movie. 1. Today’s teens experience most of the world through the prism of social med