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I met poet and independent bookstore owner John Evans over 20 years ago.
Here, he paraphrases Louis Patlers response to a womans question about
the place of independent bookstores in the culture. "This may sound
strange to you, but I think a bookstore's main function is to provide an
aesthetic presence in its neighborhood." Evans writes, "I understand
that completely." In this short essay he unpacks what he means.
Some years ago, Richard Louv made the case in his book, Last Child in the Woods, that kids were spending so little time in nature that they had “nature deficit disorder.” The consequences they suffered were dire: more stress and anxiety, higher rates of obesity and ADHD, and more.
Many parents probably recognize that being outside in nature is good for their children’s health. But they may also see a tradeoff: Encouraging their kids to get outside means less time hitting the books. And less time studying must mean less academic success, right?
Wrong. Remarkably, it turns out that the opposite may be true. As research has grown in this area—including my own—we’ve discovered that nature is not just good for kids’ health; it improves their ability to learn, too. Even small doses of nature can have profound benefits.
The evidence for this comes from hundreds of studies, including experimental r…
Today young people are trying to balance the question of "What do I want
to do when I grow up?" with the question of "Who and how do I want to
be in the world?" Physician and writer Abraham Verghese and education
researcher Denise Pope argue that's because the way we educate for
success doesn't support the creation of full, well-rounded humans. And
they see the next generation challenging our cultural view of success by
insisting that a deeply satisfying life is one filled with presence,
vulnerability, and care for others.
Transcript THERESA SCOTT When I first got into a relationship with Louis, I kind of thought to myself, “This person doesn’t seem like a person that has been imprisoned for as long as he has.” He had such a balance to his personality, to the way that he carried himself. I’m like, what is going on with this person.
We kind of saw each other for two years. Initially, I kind of kept him at arm’s length because I figured that this isn’t what my life is supposed to be like. You know, I’m supposed to find someone in the world living outside of the walls, and meet and marry and fall in love. You know, everything on the outside. Never considered someone behind prison walls. And then I had to ask myself after I took a couple …
"Being a caregiver is not something most people think or dream about,
let alone prepare for, even though it's a role many of us will inhabit,
since there are approximately 43 million informal caregivers in the
United States and 6.5 million caregivers in the United Kingdom. When a
loved one becomes a caregiver everything changes, including
responsibilities, beliefs, hopes, expectations and relationships.
Caregiving is always different than we imagine it to be, largely because
so few of us think through our care roles in advance. The
disorientation associated with these roles can be deep, intense, and
isolating because it entails a series of paradoxes." This thoughtful
excerpt shares more.
As much as we try to teach our kids to do good, research suggests that they already have the seeds of goodness within them. Kids as young as 18 months old spontaneously help others and enjoy helping, for example, and they prefer people who are kind.
For the first time, a new study suggests that preschoolers value another relationship-enhancing strength in others: forgiveness.
Psychologists Janine Oostenbroek and Amrisha Vaish studied forgiveness with 20 four year olds and 20 five year olds. The children lived in the mid-Atlantic region of the United States, were mostly white, and nearly all had parents who were college graduates.
The researchers showed children different videos where one character shows the second character, Susie, a new toy that she is excited about. Susie picks up the toy to admire it, but accidentally breaks it. Susie responds remorsefully, apologizes, and says that she didn’t me…
It’s hard to talk across differences in race, class, gender, political affiliation, sexual orientation, age, religion, ability, or any other kind of identity. We often lack the tools to help us graciously navigate conversations like these—and so we avoid having them. We just don’t talk, even though research shows diverse groups are more innovative, better at problem solving, more open to alternative viewpoints, and better off in the long run. (And it also turns out that avoiding these conversations can be toxic to our brains.)
As a diversity facilitator and former director of inclusivity at Colorado Academy (a pre-K–12 independent school), I’ve helped students, teachers, and parents find ways to enter these difficult yet critical discussions in all kinds of settings—at diversity conferences, through teaching an anti-bias social justice curriculum, and during professional development retre…
How do you help a teen get over a broken heart? Pam found a way and
Meredith found a calling. A simple solution which has reached thousands
around the world. Learn more through this beautiful short video.
I have a habit of going to bed later than I want and then being rushed in the morning and getting to work late. For several years now, I’ve been wanting to get to bed earlier, but I can’t seem to do it. I have a tendency to feel pretty driven and busy during the day, and the evening feels like my only time to relax. I binge-watch Netflix, scroll through my social media and news alerts, and generally get caught doing random things on my phone until late at night. But when I think about going to bed early, I feel kind of deprived. I think I actually do need time to wind down and take a break before I go to sleep, even when I’m totally exhausted. I would like to try again to go to bed earlier, but I feel a little nervous about it because I’ve made that resolution before and not been successful quite a few times. Thanks, Tired and Running Late
Luc Reynaud is a musician from Washington, focused on combining music
and service to others. When Hurricane Katrina hit the southeast coast,
Luc felt compelled to go down and help, using some construction skills
(and a guitar) he had picked up during a soul-searching trip. Luc began
playing his guitar around the shelter he was volunteering at, eventually
writing a song with one of the children, called 'Freedom Song.'
Ultimately, this song went on to be recorded both by Luc and separately
by Jason Mraz, who also used it for an organization called Free the
Slave. Luc's love of music lead him to form Luc and the Lovingtons who
tour the world reaching out to those struggling, whether it be
performing at homeless shelters in California, or at refugee camps in
Syria. Luc and the Lovingtons are currently working on their new album
"Welcome to my House."
When we face a moment of crisis, individually or collectively, a whole
wave of radical conversations is inevitable. For these conversations to
really make a difference, we must break through our personas and our
inauthentic poses. This is a deeper level of discourse than has hitherto
seemed thinkable in public--disarming, tender, and authentic. Such a
conversation requires a level of trust, vulnerability, and truthfulness
that our culture seems to preclude, and we tend to shy away from it. The
courageous vulnerability to speak and listen at this level is
profoundly humbling. We have to speak from the place of not knowing and
curiosity. We have to listen with an open mind and a soft heart. Terry
Patten invites us to meet him in this place of not knowing, so that we
may enter the profound shared experience of creating a republic of the