Showing posts from July 22, 2018

Inspirational Quote – July 28, 2018

“Dance like no one is watching. Love like you’ll never be hurt. Sing like no one is listening.
Live like it’s Heaven on Earth.”

I love this and try to adopt this in my life. It’s also inspiring to see that this philosophy is appearing more frequently in the media, especially as it appears to be aimed at those of us who are not ‘er ahem, in the first flush of youth! I do think that more of us of the older generation are taking this advice on board and dancing like no one is watching (or even if they are), love like we’ll never be hurt (even though we may be), and sing like no one is listening (which, trust me, wouldn’t be pleasant if they did listen to me!. In fact, enjoy your life. Do what YOU want to do, what you feel would make YOU happy, and see what happens….go on, you know you want to!

What I Regret Most Are Failures of Kindness

For many people, the things we regret in life might be the big ones: either moral failings, career opportunities missed on the way to success, or all those things that fall into the category of "adventures we should have taken." For American writer George Saunders, his list of regrets is quite simple: failures of kindness. What grabs at his heart the most is missing those seemingly insignificant chances to make a difference for the better in someone's life. His story of a lonely classmate who never felt his kindness may give us reason to reconsider what we value and how we can make the world a little kinder in small ways.

When Happiness Exercises Don’t Make You Happier

Striving for happiness can backfire sometimes, but that doesn't mean you should give up.BY SONJA LYUBOMIRSKYMEGAN M. FRITZ
One of the most poignant scenes in season two of NBC’s This Is Us is when Kevin—a former high school star quarterback and homecoming king turned failing actor struggling with addiction—returns to his hometown to receive an honored alumni award. In his acceptance speech, Kevin begins to thank his coach and parents, but, as he considers the effort these mentors invested in him, Kevin realizes just how far he has fallen and how disgraceful his behavior has been. Envisioning his deceased father on stage with him, Kevin realizes he is far from the man his father dreamed he would become. He ultimately delivers a depressing monologue about his own lack of honor, and—spoiler alert—the episode becomes a catalyst for some dangerous, rock-bottom behavior.

How and why could a genuine expression of gratitude transform into something so unpleasant? The benefits of engaging i…

Inspirational Quote – July 27, 2018

“If you are depressed,
You are living in the past.
If you are anxious,
You are living in the future.
If you are at peace,
You are living in the present.”

Not easy to follow this one is it? No matter how good our intentions, the past will persist in intruding and torment us with past mistakes, wrong decisions, etc. As if that wasn’t enough to stress us out, worries about the future keep us awake at night, constantly conjuring up various scenarios for disaster surrounding the things we have planned or hope for in our future, arghh! Ok, so the most sensible thing for me to do, is leave the past where it is as there is nothing I can do to change it so that’s sorted. There is also nothing I can do about the future as, hopefully, it will all work out as I have planned but, if not, well I will worry about that at the time. Now, regarding the present, this is something I can do something about and therefore I consciously choose to allow myself to live in peace, taking each day as it comes and deali…

Moshe Feldenkrias: Learn to Learn

Rarely does a teacher take the time to explain to a student how to learn. They will explain the topic and sometimes how to learn that topic, but how to learn in general so you can learn anything is rarely approached. In this short essay on Awareness Through Movement, Moshe Feldenkrais, the founder of the Feldenkrais Method (a form of somatic education) does just that. His intent is to enable us to learn at our own rate. For most of us, that is a radical concept. By following his simple instructions, we will not become stressed when we are learning and we will be giving ourselves a real chance to learn to learn.

Inspirational Quote – July 26, 2018

“As I declutter my life, I free myself to answer the calling of my soul.”

I don’t know about you but this certainly strikes a chord with me. It took me a lot of years to actually realize I needed to declutter my life, not just of material things, but old outdated beliefs/ideas and, to be honest, certain people too. I’m not saying it was easy, because it wasn’t, but a very gradual “weeding” process until bit by bit I began to feel less encumbered and weighed down. As this “weeding” progressed I began to experience a spiritual awakening which, as time has gone by, has brought me new friends, enlightening experiences, unending opportunities to learn more about what I feel is my calling, and a purpose to my life. It has taken me a while but I am gradually getting there and believe my soul has breathed a sigh of relief. If you haven’t already, why don’t you try “decluttering” and see what happens? I think you will be surprised by the results.

Thousand Mile Walk Home

After being sidelined by injury, professor Michael P. Branch vowed his year would be filled with 1000 miles walked. As he logged his miles, the emphasis became one of practice, like a monk's meditations, and opened his eyes in a profound way: "[The miles] were all walked here, in the high desert, on public lands, within a ten-mile radius of my home. If my bioregionalist experiment of walking more than a thousand local miles each year has involved weed whackers and beer and skipping as well as pronghorn and golden eagles and the wordless beauty of moonlight gleaming on unbroken snowfields, that may be just as well. It is incremental work, but I have had a glimpse of how these walks might someday add up to a journey, in the same way that a life is comprised only o

Seven Ways to Help Someone with Anxiety

Knowing how anxiety works can help you to better support loved ones without inadvertently making their anxiety worse.BY ALICE BOYES
When I first moved into my (now) spouse’s house in 2001, she didn’t want to include my name in our answering machine greeting. Because of our big age gap and same-sex relationship, she was justifiably anxious about how her parents would react to my having moved in; so she kept it from them for several months. Though I felt a great deal of compassion for her and her situation, I was also frustrated that her anxiety was affecting me—and I didn’t like acting as though we had something to be ashamed of.

Scenarios like this are common when someone in your life is struggling with anxiety. Your loved one may feel so fearful that they avoid taking action, or act in ways that are inconsiderate or that increase your own anxiety. This might look like a boyfriend constantly putting off important tasks or discussions, a friend complaining about being lonely but refusing…

What Do Teens’ Emotions Feel Like?

A recent study investigates how we experience feelings across the lifespan.BY JAMES MCCONCHIE
If you have any teenagers in your life, you’ve probably been witness to the emotional rollercoaster that is adolescence. You may have a hard time keeping up with all their ups and downs, with emotions shifting from extreme elation one minute to utter despair the next. But why is teen emotional life so rocky, and how is it different from our emotional experience at other ages?

In a recentstudy, researchers from Harvard and the University of Washington attempted to map the development of something called emotion differentiation, which is the ability to know and accurately label distinct emotions in yourself. This is a sign of good mental health, as those with high emotion differentiationtendto use effective coping strategies in difficult situations instead of turning to alternatives like alcohol or aggression. The study asked participants ages 5 to 25 to look at a series of unpleasant images, such…

How Love Researcher Art Aron Keeps His Own Relationship Strong

The co-creator of the "36 questions that lead to love" is constantly trying new techniques in his marriage.BY KIRA M. NEWMAN
Arthur Aron had recently read about the importance ofcelebrating your partner’s successeswhen his inbox pinged with an email. It was the editor of a top scientific journal, announcing that a paper he had collaborated on with his wife Elaine Aron—which she thought was a long shot—had been accepted. He could have called her, but he remembered the research on celebration and decided to do something different: He turned the email into a huge poster, hung it on their front door, and eagerly awaited her return home. Art isn’t just any husband. He’s a relationship researcher at SUNY Stony Brook and co-creator of the famous “36 questions that lead to love.” At age 73, Art is constantly looking out for new scientific findings that he can apply to his own life. He’s been doing that ever since he and Elaine, a researcher who studies high sensitivity, met at UC Berke…