Monday, May 21, 2018

Things Others Do That Really Tick You Off

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About Anger

Anger can be a natural response, especially when you feel disrespected or ignored. It brings on strong, aggressive feelings that help you defend yourself. But if you find yourself angry really often or it’s affecting important parts of your life, you might want to talk with a counselor to learn to handle it better. Often, it’s the actions, or lack of them, by people around us that make us mad. Like when they …
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Web Surf at Traffic Lights

That video of a cat riding the family dog across the living room is way too cute not to watch right now! The guy in front of you really should pull over, so he won’t miss a single precious second. And so he won’t miss the traffic light when it changes -- and, you know, hold up everyone behind him.
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Leave the Shopping Cart … Wherever

It’s not that hard -- cart returns are usually all over the parking lot. And if they aren’t, how long does it take to walk the cart back over to the curb -- 15 seconds? Apparently, that’s too much to ask of some people.
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Ride That Bumper

We’re all in a hurry. But someone should tell the lady on your tail that she isn’t going to make you go any faster -- and she’ll still get there after you. She’s also making an accident more likely, which would keep everyone on the road from getting home on time.
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Stop Short

That must be a really clever text the guy’s writing as he walks down the sidewalk -- so clever that he needs to stop in his tracks to finish it. He’s way too absorbed to move off to the side so you don’t crash into him -- and spill your latte down the front of your white shirt.
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Trash the Great Outdoors

They brought sodas, chips, and candy to help them enjoy a quiet weekend in nature. But then they left the cans and wrappers just where they finished with them. Untouched wilderness? Not anymore.
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Stretch Out on the Subway

This guy’s had a long day at the office, and he deserves a little space to sit and relax -- why take one seat when you can have two, right? But lots of people are tired at the end of the day, and they all want a little space to relax on the subway. So move over, buddy!
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Play Loud Music in Public

You can hear the music blaring from two cars behind you. Give us all a break, guy, and just turn it down. You want to continue hearing into your old age, right? Too much loud music can take a toll on your ears.
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Use Security Captchas

You know, they’re those weird pictures of words and numbers in funny shapes and sizes you’re supposed to type to convince some website you’re not a computer. The problem is, half the time you can’t tell what the words are any better than a computer could, which sends you in an endless loop of new ones you can’t read. There’s got to be a better way.
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frustrated woman in line at cafe
10 / 17

Take Forever to Order

That lady in front of you isn’t sure if she’s in the mood for a caramel macchiato, or a latte, or maybe she wants to really mix it up today with some green mint tea. She should take all the time she needs -- before she gets in line.
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womans look of disgust
11 / 17

Eat With Their Mouths Open

Seriously? No one wants to see that bacon, egg, and cheese sandwich in its various stages as she eats. And you definitely don’t want to listen to the sound she makes when she chews (smack smack). Mom was right when she said it’s rude to eat with your mouth open.
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Interrupt All the Time

If he can’t wait for someone to finish a sentence before jumping in with his own thoughts, he’s not really having a conversation, he’s giving a lecture. If he tried listening for a change, he might learn something.
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Block the Intersection

Traffic is backed up. The light’s turned yellow, and someone drifts into the middle of the intersection in the hope that it’ll clear and he won’t have to wait through another light. But it doesn’t, and now his wishful thinking is keeping you and the 700 cars behind you at a standstill.
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Use Price Tags That Don’t Peel Off

You just bought a gorgeous new vase at the flea market that you’re pretty sure is a genuine Ming Dynasty knockoff. It looks perfect on the sideboard in your living room -- except you can’t seem to get the price tag ($8.95) peeled off the side. Water, dish soap, razor blades -- nothing seems to work. What the heck did they use to stick that on there?
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Write Checks

Not the ones that you write at home and stick in the mail to pay your bills -- those are fine. No, the checks we’re talking about are the ones it takes the guy in front of you 10 minutes to write out at the grocery store’s “fast checkout” line, with you and 15 others in line behind him. Seriously, people were using debit cards in the last century.
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How We Deal With It

People handle anger in three ways: expressing, suppressing, and calming. The healthiest way to express it is to make yourself heard in an assertive (not aggressive) way without hurting anyone else. You also can try to calm, or control, your anger -- count to 10, take deep breaths, and let the emotion go away. But don’t suppress, or hide, it. That can turn those negative feelings inward and lead to high blood pressure or depression.
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Keep Anger in Check

A few tips to control your feelings: Use humor to defuse the situation; focus on the solution instead of the problem; and don’t say the first thing that pops into your head -- listen and think first. Your doctor can do some tests to see if your emotions are running too high. But if you have a problem with anger, you probably already know it.
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Five Ways to Help Teens Feel Good about Themselves

As teens struggle with anxiety and perfectionism, how can we help them like who they are?

Inspirational Quote – May 21, 2018

“Do what you can with what you have, where you are.”

Oh, I do! Hopefully, you do too? Realistically, that’s all any of us can do isn’t it? Nothing else for it but to get on with things. It would be great to think that each and every one of us realizes the gifts we were born with and the abilities and skills we have gained on our way through life. Then, armed with this knowledge, do the best we can, not only to enrich our lives, but also the lives of those around us. Who knows the gifts we may be able to give to each other!

How to Think: A Survival Guide for a World at Odds

"Last fall Alan Jacobs published a slim book with a bold title: How to Think: A Survival Guide for a World at Odds. Jacobs is a professor of English literature, but in this book he joins a growing chorus of social psychologists who warn that enlightenment anthropology -- what Jamie Smith memorably calls the "brains-on-a-stick" model of human persons -- falls woefully short of reality. Rather, as people like Daniel Kahneman and Jonathan Haidt have shown, our bodies -- our senses, emotions, and intuitions -- shape and direct our reasoning."

Sunday, May 20, 2018

Easy Home Exercises to Manage Fibromyalgia Pain

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Should You Exercise?

People with fibromyalgia get the same health benefits from exercise as other people -- and more. Regular exercise combats fatigue and increases energy. It makes joints more flexible and improves sleep and mood. Exercise frees people with fibromyalgia to live a fuller life. Talk to your doctor before you begin exercising. Some exercises may not be recommended for patients and could be harmful.
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Exercise Should Reduce Pain

Will exercise make you hurt more? Some muscle soreness is common after exercising in the beginning. But ultimately exercise should relieve fibromyalgia pain, not aggravate it. Try these tips: Start off small and build slowly. Massage or apply heat to sore muscles before exercise and apply cold after.
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Personalize Your Exercise Program

People with fibro often give up on exercise because they fall into a "push-crash" cycle. They push themselves too hard, get injured, and then stop. To avoid this cycle, work with your doctor or a physical therapist to design a program around what you can do. Build in rest days. Most importantly, listen to your body: Move less or slower, or use smaller motions when necessary.
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Start With Aerobic Exercise

What's better for fibromyalgia symptoms -- aerobic or relaxation exercises? One study found aerobics to be far superior -- even in people with severe fibromyalgia. Start an exercise program with a low-impact cardiovascular exercise such as walking. If walking creates too much stress on your muscles or joints, try non-weight-bearing activities like swimming or bicycling.
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Ready, Set, Walk

Walking can help control pain and fatigue. Start by walking as little as five minutes a day and add 30 seconds or a minute each day if you can. Work up to 30 minutes to an hour of walking, three to four times a week. If you start to struggle, walk for a comfortable length of time for several days before increasing again. If you want a more intense workout, try alternating walking with slow jogging.
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Curl Up Into a Pose

Just can't drag yourself out of the house some days? Then do yoga poses at home. Yoga's combination of stretching and meditation seems to ease multiple fibro symptoms including poor sleep, anxiety, and depression. Seated yoga positions can be practiced on a chair or the floor. Or try a restorative pose: Lie on the floor with your legs extended straight up a wall.
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Take the Plunge

Hit the neighborhood pool even if you don't know how to swim. Water is easy on the joints, it relaxes muscles, and it allows you to stretch more. If you can't swim, find an aquatics class that includes gentle range of motion, flexibility, strengthening, and aerobic exercises. Warm water in particular (around 88 degrees) may help relax muscles more. Look for a gym or clinic with a warm-water pool or hot tub.
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Strengthen Your Muscles

People with fibromyalgia were once discouraged from doing strength training. But research has shown that it's safe and helpful. Strengthening muscles makes daily activities such as climbing stairs and doing household chores easier. Use props like resistance bands or free weights. To strengthen calves, rise up on your toes as high as you can and slowly lower yourself back down. Hold weights during reps.
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Stretch for Flexibility

Can you move all your joints through their full range of motion? Many people with fibromyalgia can't. Range-of-motion exercises gently reduce stiffness and keep joints flexible, making movement easier during your daily routine. Start with simple motions such as rotating your arms and legs as you sit in a chair. Your doctor or a physical therapist can help identify the right exercises for you.
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Every Little Bit Helps

Maybe the idea of exercise still seems overwhelming. Or maybe you're already in an exercise program. You can still try to add little bits of physical activity to your daily routine. Walk up the escalator. Move the remote so you have to get up to change the TV channel. Push the baby stroller when you go for a walk. Little challenges like these shouldn't worsen symptoms but should improve pain and fatigue.
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Stay Psyched to Move

Exercising consistently helps you get the most out of your program. But fibro symptoms can dampen motivation. To stay inspired, exercise with a friend or a fibro support group in your area. Set small goals for yourself. And when you reach your goals, reward yourself with a massage, a movie, or extra reading time. Above all, keep your eyes on the prize: feeling your best, even with fibromyalgia.
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12 Tips for Coping With Fibromyalgia

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Stress may trigger fibromyalgia symptoms. Minimizing stress can improve your quality of life. Some proven stress busters are yoga, exercise, sleep, and meditation. Breathing deeply and exhaling slowly can also help. Or keep in mind activities that you enjoy or that make you feel better. When stress strikes, do one or two of them.
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Jot It Down

If "fibro fog" is hurting your focus or memory, keep a pen and paper handy. Make to-do and even "to say" lists -- to help you remember topics you want to talk to your spouse or family about. Keep shopping lists, friends' names, and important phone numbers and addresses in a notebook to carry with you.
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Exercise Regularly

Regular, low-intensity exercise, such as walking or warm-water exercise, is one of the best treatments for fibromyalgia. It helps decrease pain and stiffness, reduce stress, and may increase your sense of control over fibromyalgia. You may also sleep better. Talk to your doctor or a physical therapist about a good exercise program for you.
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Do Some Serious Soaking

Soaking in a warm bath or hot tub can relax tense muscles, reduce pain, and help you move more easily. If it's difficult for you to get in and out of the tub, try a sauna or put a stool in the shower so you can sit and let the water do its work. Moist heat may increase endorphins, which block pain signals, and help you sleep more soundly.
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Reach for Decaf

Caffeine may compound stress, both physically and psychologically. It stimulates the heart and central nervous system, and can increase nervousness, anxiety, and insomnia. So decaffeinate to de-stress. For better sleep at night, avoid caffeine from the late afternoon on. Watch out for caffeine in chocolate, coffee, and some soft drinks and teas.
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Take Some 'Me Time' Every Day

Fibromyalgia can pose unique health challenges and make life complicated. So make time for yourself every day as a part of your treatment. Lose yourself in a hobby, put on some music, rest -- whatever makes you feel good. It may bring more balance to your life, help you fight stress, and boost your energy for the things you need to do.
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Make Work Life Better

Is work leaving you exhausted and in pain? Design a flexible plan that works for you and your boss. Ask about working from home part-time, or setting your hours for earlier or later in the day so you can be more productive. At the office, rearrange your workspace for comfort and easy accessibility. A telephone headset, keyboard tray, or other products may help put less stress on your body.
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Talk About It

Fibromyalgia puts stress on you and those around you. Communication is critical. Don't try to always put on a happy face. Your loved ones need to know what makes symptoms worse. Plan talks for your best time of day. Try focusing on one issue and look for solutions. And don't be afraid to ask for help -- from friends, others with fibromyalgia, or a counselor.
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Just Say No

Fibromyalgia is sometimes called an "invisible illness" -- you can look fine but feel bad. People may forget that you need to prioritize and pace yourself. When weighing activities, favors, or invitations consider if they will keep you from the rest, exercise, or relaxation you need to feel well. It's OK to simply say "no." And stick to it.
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Make Your Bedroom a Sleep Sanctuary

If you're not getting enough rest, set the mood in your bedroom for sleep. Reserve the bed for sleeping, and keep the room dark, quiet, cool, and distraction-free. Keep regular sleep hours and ban the computer and late-night TV watching. Instead, wind down with relaxing music or a warm bath.
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Keep a Daily Journal

Keeping track of events, activities, symptoms, and mood changes can help you take charge of fibromyalgia. It may make you aware of when symptoms start and, over time, what may be triggering them. Then you can work to eliminate triggers or learn coping strategies to lessen their impact.
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Join a Support Group

Support groups can play an important part in the lives of people with a chronic illness. Whether in person or online, they offer a safe place to talk with others who may share your frustrations and concerns. Support groups provide emotional support, information, and tips for coping. Contact the Arthritis Foundation to find one in your area.
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