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How to Help Your Marriage Survive Lockdown

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Relationship experts share advice on how to survive "intensive togetherness."

Dinner at home was not on the menu when Jennifer Monahan planned her 10th wedding anniversary. But that was before the coronavirus pandemic drove hundreds of millions of couples around the globe indoors and into intensive togetherness, for better or for worse.

By Yasmin Anwar


On April 10, she and her husband Brian instead raised a toast to their marriage from the confines of their shared living space. “Travel was out, and dinner in a nice restaurant was, um, off the table. So, we stayed in and had a nice home-cooked meal,” said Monahan, a communications manager at UC Berkeley’s School of Social Welfare.

Such are the lighter moments of love and marriage in tight quarters, though plenty of couples may soon be singing Dan Hicks’s “How can I miss you when you won’t go away?”

Intimate relationships can turn dark pretty fast under stay-at-home orders when decisions over whether to go for a run, make a trip to…

Powered by Love --- an Emerging Worldview

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"There is a worldview that has come to dominate every aspect of global reality affecting human civilization, the natural world and planetary climate conditions. It can be summarized as the quantitative worldview. The quantitative worldview is in a crisis so deep it is leading, in an interconnected and interdependent world, to deep systemic disruptions, chaotic conditions and signs of complete failure. If this worldview were a patient receiving care it would be in intensive care on life support.There is another emerging worldview that is, from a whole world-whole systems perspective, in the natal unit being born into the world exactly as the quantitative worldview is on life support: this worldview, constituting a universal paradigm shift, can be summarized as the qualitative worldview." James O'Dea shares more.


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How Taking Photos Can Help You Find Meaning in Life

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Here's an exercise to help you remember what matters.

By Jane Park



You’re Never Too Old to Dive into Your Dreams!

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Have you ever seen a 90-year-old do a flip? The team members of the Harlem Honeys and Bears are reminding us that we’re never too old to find a passion in life, and certainly never too old to try something new!

If the idea that you’re too old to try the things you’ve always wanted to try has ever crossed your mind, you’re definitely going to want to listen up! We’re heading to the pool to see how the Harlem Honeys and Bears are defying that logic, and showing us what can happen when we turn our interests into action.

By Sam Burns


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Charles Eisenstein: The Coronation

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"For years, normality has been stretched nearly to its breaking point, a rope pulled tighter and tighter, waiting for a nip of the black swans beak to snap it in two. Now that the rope has snapped, do we tie its ends back together, or shall we undo its dangling braids still further, to see what we might weave from them? Covid-19 is showing us that when humanity is united in common cause, phenomenally rapid change is possible. None of the world's problems are technically difficult to solve; they originate in human disagreement. In coherency, humanity's creative powers are boundless. A few months ago, a proposal to halt commercial air travel would have seemed preposterous. Likewise for the radical changes we are making in our social behavior, economy, and the role of government in our lives. Covid demonstrates the power of our collective will when we agree on what is important. What else might we achieve, in coherency? What do we want to achieve, and what world…

Stuck at Home? How to Find Awe and Beauty Indoors

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During quarantine, you can gain a sense of perspective by finding the wondrous in the clutter of your home.

The coronavirus snuck up on us, bringing our way of life to a sudden halt. Here we are now, sheltering at home, shocked by the rising death count, worrying about ourselves and those we love. What used to be a cough to clear our throat now leads to hallucinations of being on a respirator. We may be sheltered in our homes, but we are not sheltered from our anxiety.

By Jake Eagle, Michael Amster


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Phil Chan on Art, Civilization & Empathy

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"It is no accident that all civilizations possess art. This is so because art is not simply a by-product of civilization; art is its necessary precondition. Without art mankind would less likely have developed the capacity for empathy, and without the capacity for empathy, individual lives would remain brutish. A collection of brutes cannot possibly come together to lay the groundwork for a civil society." In a time when civil society has entered a period of profound uncertainty, Phil Chan's words in this piece emphasize the imperatives of art.


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How to Keep Coronavirus Worries from Disrupting Your Sleep

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A sleep expert weighs in on how to get a better night’s rest during this time of heightened stress.

Many people I know have been complaining lately about losing sleep. It’s no surprise why. All of us are feeling increased stress and worry, and experiencing changes in our work and family life. The novel coronavirus can keep us up at night.

By Jill Suttie


What can we do to protect our sleep during this time? For answers, I turned to Shelby Harris, director of the Behavioral Sleep Medicine Program at Montefiore Medical Center, an associate professor at the Albert Einstein College of Medicine, and author of the book The Women’s Guide to Overcoming Insomnia. We discussed what’s driving sleep disruption, the place of news and social media in our lives, the best way to binge your favorite TV shows, and more.

Jill Suttie: Why do you think it’s important to consider our sleep during a time like this, when so much else is going on?

Shelby Harris: Sleep is important for so many things. It’s importan…

Ask Yourself These Three Questions and They Can Change Your Life!

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What if three questions could help us live happier lives filled with more joy and meaning? The answers to these questions have the power to change the way we interact with our loved ones, do our work, and live a more fulfilled existence together!

There are three questions that have the power to change the way you work, interact with your loved ones, and make use of your time on this planet! With them, you could reconnect to the things that feed your soul to help you work more meaningfully, and create better connections with the people around us. So, what are these three questions? Well, stick around and you’ll find out.

By Liesl Ulrich-Verderber


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Palpable Dark & Light: Parenting in the COVID Era

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"A harsh light has illuminated the cobwebs that cloud my spirit. Subtle expectations, the drive to produce, a persistent need for external validation, a victim mentality, a relentless checklist of logistical calculations (Kids lunch? Check. Dinner prepped for tomorrow? Check.Time for a quick run in between meetings? Check. Check. Check. Check. Oops, missed that one. Check again.)" During a rare stretch of quietude on a recent afternoon, a mother of two young ones sat down to pen some reflections on her experience of parenting in the midst of a global pandemic.


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What Happy People Think About Luck

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Your attitude toward luck might influence how happy you are.

Etymologically, the prefix “hap” means luck or fortune, as you might recognize in words like perhaps, happenstance, haphazard, or—most relevant here—happy. Many other languages also show this overlap between “happy” and “lucky.” But what does being happy have to do with luck?

By Emiliana R. Simon-Thomas


According to a recent study, happy people have very specific beliefs about luck. They’re less likely to see luck as some kind of outer force that makes things happen for people, but more likely to consider themselves personally lucky—a subtle but important distinction.

To discover the connection between luck and happiness, a team of researchers from the U.K. and Hong Kong gave surveys to 844 English-speaking university students in Hong Kong. The survey questions measured their thoughts about luck, their happiness levels, and their personality traits.

The researchers observed that less happy people tended to have a stronger belief…

When Dreams Come to Life in Your Own Backyard!

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How can we use what we are passionate about to enrich the lives of others? Some folks are extra motivated to showcase their interests in a way that others can enjoy. Kick up some dust and reach for the stars, you are about to meet two innovative individuals from very different walks of life, as they give us a tour of their very own backyard wonders!

When life gets tough, people always tell you to “find your happy place”. But what exactly does that mean? The answer is wildly different for everyone. Some folks like to kick up the dust inside the saloon of their very own Western town, while others prefer to let their minds drift into the inky curtain of the night skies. Get ready to celebrate the beauty within each other’s differences, we are walking out the back door to explore some handmade backyard wonders!

By Renee Laroche-Rheaume

Seeking Solitude in Nature: A Meditation Teacher's Story

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"By the time we're 60, we will have been alive for almost 22,000 days on this planet, rarely, if ever, stopping to watch just one. By immersion into nature in solitude, we allow the natural human to become entrained to the nature of the planet we are part of. I had been camping in solitude in nature -- on a hill over the ocean on the coast of California -- as I have done twice a year for the past 20+ years. I jokingly call it my "People Fast", which I have always assumed I needed since, as a meditation teacher and an actress, what I do in the world involves intense and intimate interactions with people, and I figured that we always need an opportunity to "clear out" and refresh or reground ourselves. But there is more to it than that -- at least for me." Meditation teacher Stephanie Nash shares more.


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How Parents Can Help Kids Thrive in an Uncertain Future

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Kids need resilience, compassion, humility, and a moral compass—not academic achievement at any cost.

When psychologist Madeline Levine wrote The Price of Privilege 14 years ago, she wanted to persuade parents that pushing kids to succeed at any cost was making them suffer. But since then, the rates of anxiety and depression in kids have only increased, suggesting that life today may be even harder for them.

By Jill Suttie


“We’ve got fires, crazy politics, climate change, mass murders, all kinds of social uncertainty and fear. So, kids (and their parents, too) are incredibly anxious, and they don’t know how to be effective in a very uncertain environment,” she says.

Enter her new book, Ready or Not: Preparing Our Kids to Thrive in an Uncertain and Rapidly Changing World. Meant as a guide for parents, the book offers information about the challenges kids face today and what parents can do to better support them. Too often parents take the wrong approach to encouraging their kids’ success, …

Finding Beauty in a Broken World

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"I think what is being asked of each of us right now [is to become] really fully who we are so that we can be of use. And it is scary. But I think the risk is worth it. And what do we lose and what do we sacrifice if we are not fully present, fully engaged, fully embracing who we are?" Tami Simon speaks with Terry Tempest Williams, a writer, naturalist, environmental activist, and author of several books including, 'Finding Beauty in a Broken World.'


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This Is Not a Rehearsal

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"Self-quarantined and isolated in her apartment in Brooklyn, Hala Alyan is more aware than ever of humanity's interdependence--suddenly exposed as a raw, pulsing nerve. With all of us inescapably together as we move through this pandemic, how, she asks, can we make room for grief, empathy, and hope?"


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