Showing posts from March 23, 2014

Daily Inspirational Message for March 29, 2014

“What counts in making a happy relationship is not so much how compatible you are, but how you deal with incompatibility.” - Daniel Goleman I put my first husband through so much. I was only 20 when we married, and I had no idea what I was doing. Most of all, I had this strong sense of feminist independence, and I would not compromise on anything. I wouldn’t rein myself in at all in terms of where I went and when, who I hung out with, etc., regardless of how he felt. I have learned a great deal since then, and my second marriage is the benefactor of my new wisdom. Now when I don’t agree with my husband, I can still respect and honor his feelings. I can say to him and to myself that he is simply worth compromising for. It’s not a sacrifice, it’s an investment, for this attitude has built a relationship where there is so much joy and intimacy that compromising means I end up with more, not less.

Relax Into the Effort

Make the effort, with passion and persistence, but don’t make it into a struggle. Take action, but don’t add your own tension or conflict to it. To be highly effective at what you’re doing, be at peace with what you’re doing. To be confident in your actions, genuinely enjoy those actions. It may seem to be a contradiction to take action and to relax at the same time. In fact, it is a powerful combination. When you’re not fighting against your own efforts, you can devote all your positive energy to bringing about spectacular results. When you find enjoyment in working through the challenges, you’ll transform those challenges into great value. If you’re busy being uptight, you’re not getting anything done. Instead, be good with what you’re doing, and you’ll be very good at whatever you’re doing. Accept, enjoy and relax into the effort. Find delight and fulfillment in peacefully being your authentic best. — Ralph Marston

Timeless Wisdom From Marcus Aurelius

Roman emperor Marcus Aurelius' most enduring legacy is not his external power, but his deeply held conviction that each one of us is endowed with the inner power to control our minds and responses to external events. In his extensive compilation of writings, collectively titled 'Meditations', Aurelius describes how to develop a mindset that can deal well with any experiences or emotions that arise. Among these teachings are that your own happiness is up to you. There is good in everyone, and life should be treated as an old, faithful friend. In the words of Aurelius, "Everything contains some special purpose and a hidden blessing; what then could be strange or arduous when all of life is here to greet you like an old and faithful friend?"

Daily Inspirational Message for March 28, 2014

“Words are, of course, the most powerful drug used by mankind.” - Rudyard Kipling The next time you’re feeling glum, pick up an uplifting book. Read for fifteen minutes, and see if you’re not a whole new person by the time you’re done. You can alter your state of consciousness without anything more than words! To feel better, read things that inspire your hopes for the future, that empower you to create what you want in your life. Words can be more powerful than mind-altering drugs – and without the side effects.

Highly Worthy

You deserve the very best. And you deserve the experience of creating it in your life. Those who tell you that you’re undeserving are wrong. Those who tell you that you can have something for nothing are just as wrong. Yes, on this very day you are worthy of the best life you can imagine. And on this very day, you have the opportunity, and the responsibility, to bring that life into being. What a waste it would be to live at less than your highest level. What a shame it would be to squander even one day of your unique, highly worthy life. What you have is amazing and filled with great promise. So put in some effort that’s fully worthy of that great promise. You deserve a life that’s rich and full, and you deserve to be the one who makes it happen. So get up, get busy, get going, and discover how truly deserving you are. — Ralph Marston

The Difference Between Meaning & Happiness

Philosophers, researchers, spiritual leaders -- they've all debated what makes life worth living. Is it a life filled with happiness or a life filled with purpose and meaning? Is there even a difference between the two? Recently some researchers have explored these questions in depth, trying to tease apart the differences between a meaningful life and a happy one. Their research suggests there's more to life than happiness -- and even calls into question some previous findings from the field of positive psychology. This piece shares more.

Daily Inspirational Message for March 27, 2014

“Question with boldness even the existence of a God; because, if there be one, he must more approve of the homage of reason, than that of blind-folded fear.” - Thomas Jefferson I’m not a proponent of blind faith. I say experiment and explore, and base your beliefs upon your own experiences. Is our power to reason not divine? Is our natural need to question not God-given? There is nothing wrong with wanting evidence, only with ignoring the evidence we do receive because it doesn’t fit within the belief systems we’ve been given part and parcel by our families and society at large. Question! Just be open enough to allow the real answers in, whether they “make sense” in light of your existing beliefs or not.

Let Yourself Be Yourself

Make this day about fulfilling your possibilities, not about satisfying your ego. Make this day about being your authentic best, not about appearing to be impressive. Free yourself from the burden of worrying about what others might think of you. Use all that liberated energy to make a real, substantive difference in the world. If you let your ego run your life, it will impose a great cost and leave you with nothing of real value. Raise your expectations higher, and go far beyond those burdensome superficial concerns. You are genuinely beautiful, worthy and have much to offer life. Let yourself be your authentic self, and let that beauty come forth. Do what you’re most passionate about doing. Let go of all the things you do to merely keep up appearances. There is immense value in the unique, authentic person you are. Today, and every day, generously share that value with all of life. — Ralph Marston

How Wolves Change Rivers

When wolves were reintroduced to Yellowstone National Park in the United States after being absent for nearly 70 years, the most remarkable "trophic cascade" occurred. What is a trophic cascade and how exactly do wolves change rivers? British environmental journalist George Monbiot explains in this video remix by Sustainable Man.

Daily Inspirational Message for March 26, 2014

“You may be 38 years old, as I happen to be. And one day, some great opportunity stands before you and calls you to stand up for some great principle, some great issue, some great cause. And you refuse to do it because you are afraid…. You refuse to do it because you want to live longer…. You’re afraid that you will lose your job, or you are afraid that you will be criticized or that you will lose your popularity, or you’re afraid that somebody will stab you, or shoot at you or bomb your house; so you refuse to take the stand. Well, you may go on and live until you are 90, but you’re just as dead at 38 as you would be at 90. And the cessation of breathing in your life is but the belated announcement of an earlier death of the spirit.” – Martin Luther King Jr. Fear of the future is, simply put, fear of that which is uncertain. When going about our daily lives and encountering new opportunities in our professional, personal, and romantic lives, it can be easy to give into that fear of

Big Break

Stop looking, wishing and hoping for some other person or outside event to give you a break. Go ahead and give yourself a big break. The perfect opportunity is not the one that exists only in your fantasies. The perfect opportunity is the one you have right now. You have the opportunity, on this day, in this place, to do good and valuable things that will move your life forward. You can have the big break you desire by working to make it happen. If you wait for conditions to be perfect before taking action, all you’ll ever do is wait. Go ahead, with things just as they are, and do all you can. Accept the fact that it is indeed difficult to move your life and your world forward. When you stop fighting against the difficulties, and simply work your way through, they are not nearly so difficult. This is the time you have, and this is the time to act. Give yourself a great big positive break today, and feel the joy as your most treasured dreams begin to come to life. — Ralph Ma

Three Short Pieces To Reframe Your Day

"Footsteps in the hall and the familiar sound of a key turning in its lock. My husband is home. He drops his lunch bag by the door like a schoolboy. Hurry, he says, there's something time-sensitive you need to see. I am pulled to my feet by curiosity and the urgency in his voice. We hustle into the cool, dark arms of a January night.." In these three short pieces a writer opens a window onto everyday moments, inspiring an appreciation for the beauty that lurks in the ordinary.

Daily Inspirational Message for March 25, 2014

“The test of literature is, I suppose, whether we ourselves live more intensely for the reading of it.” - Elizabeth Drew Good books inspire us think about our own lives and our own stories, and what we most love and cherish. The novels of Alice Hoffman, for example, always make me appreciate my husband, friends and family more, for her characters are beautifully human and driven by deep desires. If your life has become dull and gray, try reading a great book. Its characters will awaken fresh dreams and buried desires in you, and shine new light on your own life.

Keep Pushing Forward

When you feel like quitting, you’re actually closer than ever to getting the work done. Keep going, keep moving, keep working and finish the task. When it seems that you’ve run out of ideas, you’re actually opening yourself to new, more workable, more powerful ideas. Keep going, move on past the discouragement, and let those new ideas flow. Sure, you can think of plenty of reasons to stop short of the goal. Yet there are even better reasons to push yourself forward so the goal is reached. If the work has been difficult and challenging, that’s certainly no reason to stop. In fact, that means you’ve got a whole lot invested in what you’re doing, so keep going and reap the rewards of that investment. You already made the choice to get started, so choose right now to reaffirm your commitment. Keep up the good and valuable work, and get the results you desire. This is a great day to make real progress, so make the most of it. Keep going, keep pushing forward, and keep creating rea

Q&A With Daniel Goleman

"I think attentional skills are fundamentally under siege today. Never before in human history have there been so many seductive distractors in a person's day, in a given hour, or in 10 minutes...I think this is another reason to develop a meta-awareness about where our attention has gone. I think we need to make more effort and cultivate more strength to detach [our attention] from that thing that is so tempting over there, and bring it back to the person in front of us." Have you ever had the experience of being "alone together" -- sitting in the same space with someone, while both of you stare at a screen? For anyone who feels the temptations of electronic distractions, you may want to learn more from Daniel Goleman and his new book "Focus."

Reading: What’s the Impact on Justin Bieber’s Career?

“I’m sure many who read the news online heard when Justin Bieber was arrested for DUI (driving under the influence of substances) and resisting arrest. I would describe Bieber as the tarot’s Knight of Wands reversed, or ill-dignified. After doing a Tarot card reading on the situation, this is what I discovered…”

Auntie Sophia Talks About…Tarot Reversals

“Auntie Sophia is a sassy auntie who loves to dispense advice to those with dilemmas. In this article, Auntie Sophia addresses an eternal question which is causing conflict in her friend’s relationship. My friend Tara came over for tea the other day, and during our confab she worried about the fact that she uses tarot reversals and her boyfriend doesn’t…”

Predicting a Lottery Win

“This article’s title is quite provocative and no doubt it got your attention. Sadly, I don’t have an insider’s track on predicting when to play the lottery and win, or even the best way to pick lottery numbers. (Although I’ve seen tarot spreads for doing just that!)”

Daily Inspirational Message for March 24, 2014

“Happiness is not so much in having as in sharing. We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.” - Norman Macewan How delicious it is to give without concern for what we’re giving up, to give people we love whatever we think they’d like the best, all the while knowing that nothing we give them will really capture what they mean to us. It means we’re blessed with a priceless friend. Giving out of the blue for no occasion whatsoever takes everyone by delightful surprise. It’s a sure way to pick ourselves up while picking someone we love up at the same time.

Empowering Positive Energy

Negative thoughts affect more than just your mind. Those thoughts create negative energy that flows destructively throughout your entire life. If you are extremely negative about one thing, that negativity seeps into everything. That’s why it is so important to transform the negative influences into positive thoughts and endeavors. There will always be people, events and circumstances that have the potential to get you down. However, you don’t have to let them keep you down for long. Much of what comes to you, and happens beyond you, is out of your control. Yet you always can precisely and dependably control what you do with it. The best thing to do with whatever happens is to find a positive, purposeful way to respond. If something threatens to get you down, choose to do something even more consequential that lifts your world up. Instead of letting the negativity drain you, create your own empowering positive energy. A positive response is always there, so find it and choose

18 Things Highly Creative People Do Differently

"Creativity works in mysterious and often paradoxical ways. Creative thinking is a stable, defining characteristic in some personalities, but it may also change based on situation and context. Inspiration and ideas often arise seemingly out of nowhere and then fail to show up when we most need them, and creative thinking requires complex cognition yet is completely distinct from the thinking process." While the creative type is difficult to pin down, there are things that creative people tend to do differently. They daydream, observe, and seek out new experiences. Creative people are resilient and have the courage to ask big questions. This article describes eighteen features of the highly creative, which are all inspiring ways that anyone can follow to be more self-expressive and authentic.

Daily Inspirational Message for March 23, 2014

“Ten thousand flowers in spring, the moon in autumn, a cool breeze in summer, snow in winter. If your mind isn’t clouded by unnecessary things, this is the best season of your life.” - Wu-men What are the unnecessary things that keep us from happiness? They’re concerns over anything but whatever is present right now: ruminations over the past, worries about the future, big and little dramas, insatiable desires and irrational fears. Look deeply around you, and you’ll discover that right now, your world is in endless ways truly beautiful.

Helping Kids Overcome Fear of Failure

Are kids kept safe from failure nowadays, and in the process, are they failing to develop the resiliency needed to confront life's mistakes and challenges head on? According to UC Berkeley professor Martin Covington, fear of failure is directly linked our feelings of self-worth, and many children go to great lengths to avoid failing. Knowing this, what can we do to create a safer environment for children to fail (and succeed)? Read on to learn more.