New Year's resolutions tend to be about wanting more of something we desire
and/or less of something we do not, and while they surely have their noble side,
they also often emanate from subtle and less subtle forms of perceived lack,
scarcity, comparison, self-flagellation, and judgment. The 'should' and 'should
not' messages we send ourselves when we make resolutions can be harsh and
incriminating. These are qualities we may want to endeavor not to perpetuate and
strengthen when we make our commitments this year.
How about making 'the means more of the ends' by putting gratefulness rather
than scarcity at the center of the resolutions we make this year? How about
bringing a more gentle form of motivation, rooted in appreciation,
celebration, and acceptance, to our goals? How about letting gratitude guide
us?" Kristi Nelson shares more ideas here.
