Understanding Your Part in the Trouble - An Excerpt from Love Cycles by Linda Carroll

It’s difficult to have real exchanges with our partner if we’re not clear about our needs and motivations. First we must be honest and listen to ourselves. Then we must be honest and listen to our partner, in good faith. Otherwise, so-called communication is nothing more than an empty exercise. Here’s an example of this dynamic, which played out in two meetings with a couple I saw in my practice.
As Rob and his girlfriend, Mandy sat in my office, ...

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